What Size Toy Is Right For Me
How to Choose the Right Fit
Selecting the right size toy for your ability level and your goals is an important part of your purchase. Get a toy that’s too small and you’ll quickly wish you’d gone bigger. Pick a toy that’s too big and you might find it relegated to that “box of mistakes” that you keep under your bed. Whatever you do, make sure you’re always playing safely within your limits. It’s better to work toward a goal safely than to push yourself too hard and find you have to take a long break. Use the information below to help you make the best decision for your pleasure.
What Makes Topped Toys unique?
We’ve all bought toys that didn’t live up to our expectations. Before we started designing toys we did a lot of research on different shapes, sizes, and materials to make sure Topped Toys don’t fall into someone’s list of regrets.
Our toys are made of top quality platinum silicone. This means they are durable and safe. In fact, our material is third party approved for application in skin contact uses. Treat your Topped Toys well and they will be with you a long time.
Topped's super soft material is super comfortable, and reduces the risk of injury (though it does not eliminate risk, so be smart). Give one of our toys a squeeze, or a tug, or fold it in half and you’ll see that our toys provide stretch while still conforming to your body shape. This is part of what makes the Gape Keeper series so comfortable for long term wear, and the Chute so pleasurable for playing with a partner.
And Then There’s the Shape
Each Topped toy is designed with an intended use, whether that is long term wear, partner play, or rapid destruction.
The Gape Keeper series is designed for long term wear while the Grip is designed to pop in and stay put. The Chute is designed with partner play in mind. Each shape provides a different feel and you may find that in one toy you can handle a 2 inch width while in another you can only go to 1.75 inches. Check the collection and product pages for detailed descriptions of each design.
Naming the Toys
If you’re familiar with anal play, you may already know a little bit about the architecture of your insides. If you’re not, read on.
Your ass is composed of a few different parts moving from outside to inside. Depending on the toy shape and size different parts will be engaged.
Anus: First, there’s your anus and your sphincter, or your hole. This is the tight circle of muscles (actually two: an internal and an external sphincter) through which you will push a toy. Your external sphincter is made of voluntary muscles meaning you can voluntarily tighten or loosen it. It’s also helpful to remember that, like other muscles, your sphincter muscles can stretch and rebound building flexibility. For example, just because someone can touch their toes doesn’t mean they can’t stand up straight. With careful controlled stretching of your sphincter you’ll develop flexibility without causing damage. Your internal sphincter is not voluntary and will take gentle coaxing to open.
Rectum: once you get past the muscles of the sphincter you’re into your rectum. The rectum is larger and can hold the bulb of a toy comfortably. Inside the rectum there are a few major flaps that should be comfortably pushed to the side by the toy. If you feel yourself bottoming out, or like there’s not room inside your rectum for the toy, then it’s best to take a break. Flush some cool water inside yourself or use a hemorrhoid suppository to soothe yourself.
Second Ring: At the top of your rectum there’s a left turn into the sigmoid colon. This bend is sometimes thought of as the “second ring” among deep toy players. Every person is different, but this bend will generally occur 6-8 inches inside you Topped's larger toys (the Gape Keeper 100 and 116) will start to engage the second ring and you may find your sphincter and your second ring fighting each other as these larger toys sit inside you. For some this is devilishly pleasurable, others may prefer to stick to shorter toys.
New to play? Start with the Gape Keeper 65
According to HealthLine.com, the average erect penis has a circumference of about 4.6 inches. If you’re accustomed to penises only, starting with our smallest Gape Keeper at 6.5 inches will probably feel like a comfortable stretch as you move over the widest point to a resting neck circumference of 3.95 inches. Keep in mind that once the bulb has passed the tighter muscles of your sphincter it will be held in the rectum, which can comfortably hold a larger width.
As you gain experience you’ll learn about the unique interior shape of your body and what you can comfortably hold. You’ll also become familiar with the sensation of gentle stretching, as opposed to the sharper sensation of pushing yourself to hard. It’s very important to recognize the difference between these two sensations because the first is safe and the second is not.
Once you’re comfortable with the 65, start working your way up the series until you reach your goal.
The Gape Keeper 85
At 8.5 inches around at the widest point and 5.5 inches at the neck, the Gape Keeper 85 is bigger than what most people are used to but extremely comfortable when worn. Many of our experienced customers like to buy the 85 in conjunction with the Gape Keeper 116, using the 116 for stretching sessions and the 85 for longer wear. If your capable of taking a fist then you’ll find the 85 to be a nice addition when chilling at home,
The 100 and the 116
Our large sizes start at the Gape Keeper 100. About the same girth as a fist but with a longer shape, the 100 will provide a long stretch to your sphincter, then slightly engage your second ring after it slips in. Flex your muscles around this toy and you’ll feel intense pleasure against your sphincter and at the base of your spine.
The Gape Keeper 116 is for advanced players only. We recommend working your way up to it with smaller toys first. This wide plug is sure to push your limits once you slide past the widest point. The softness of the material causes the plug to squish, then slowly expand inside you as your sphincter muscles relax. Holding the 116 in takes practice, and it will certainly push your sphincter and second ring to accommodate it. The 116 is an amazing toy for training to take a double fist. Put it in for 20 minutes before a fisting session and you’ll be amazed at how opened up you are.
The Gape Keeper 128
Our largest plug in the series, the Gape Keeper 128 is for advanced players only. While shorter than the 116 it is a wider plug (12.8" circumference / 4.1" diameter). At this width, it is best for most players to limit the depth which is why we chose to shorten it a bit. The sensation from the 128 is a mind-blowing deep fullness similar to a double fist. It will leave you coming back again and again.
We highly recommend mastering the 116 before stepping up to the amazing 128.
We can’t state enough that you should play within your limits. We know it’s tempting to go for that last inch, but it’s not worth injuring yourself and having to take several months away from play. Use good lube. Stop if you’re sore. Stop if there’s a sharp pain or anything pink in the lube. Give yourself rest between sessions.
Disclaimer: While we are experienced with playing toys, our advice is not medical advice nor has it been reviewed by a medical professional. Play at your own risk and within your limits. If you have medical questions about toy play you should consult a doctor.